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First of all, I want to thank everyone who came to help Kristin and… 
8th-Nov-2009 08:49 pm
First of all, I want to thank everyone who came to help Kristin and me move yesterday.  It went super fast and was really easy thanks to all of you that came out.  We really couldn't have done it without you, and even the pizza and beer couldn't have been enough to let you all know how appreciative we were for your help.

And for all interested parties, Kristin and I were wondering who would be interested in having  Wednesgiving at our new place.   Please let us know sooner rather than later if this works (or does not work) for you.  t'anks  :3

The move is going well, I have most of my books unpacked and I clearly have my computer set up (the most important thing).  The kitchen is mostly done, and so is the bedroom.  The downstairs room...well...not so much.

Mentally, the move is...going okay.  I had some rough spots today when I had to drive back to my parents' house to pick up a few more things and also to drop the suburban back off.  Seeing my room mostly empty except for old marching band and bowling (yes, bowling) trophies and my bed, and a few things hung up on my walls (a poster, some old OM awards) really affected me.

I didn't know moving out was going to be this hard.

It was tough to look around the room or even the entire house.  Twenty years of memories was a lot of weight to bear.  I'd never sleep in my old bed again.  I'd never be in that room up until 4, 5, 6am at my desk playing WoW or Mass Effect, Bioshock, or any countless number of games I'd played long past my bedtime.  I'd never again sit on the floor of that room, reading a Wheel of Time or Star Wars book when I should instead have been studying for Stats or Bio.  I'd never paint another warhammer mini in that room.  Or plan a Dark Heresy session.  Or write out an army list.  Nerdy, inconsequential things, but I have a lot of fond memories of the place.

Even driving through Leesburg was interesting.  I'm not going to be driving past my high school every day going to or from work; I'd always get a feeling of pride when I'd see the marching band rehersing outside after school.  In fact, I'm not going to pass any of the many landmarks on my way home from work again because, well, it's not my home anymore.  And that's tougher to deal with than I would have thought.

9th-Nov-2009 06:01 am (UTC)
I went through some very similar feelings when my parents moved down to North Carolina from Leesburg.

It get easier, and if you need a dose it's fairly nearby.

Congrats to you and Kirstin, by the by!
9th-Nov-2009 02:00 pm (UTC)
It takes time for your new house to feel like home, but it will soon. After almost 4 years of being away from living with my parents, the idea of it seems totally strange to me.

What helps is the truly awesome stuff, when you can totally do things like walk around naked for no reason, or throw a futon mattress in front of the fireplace and sleep there just cause it's awesome.
9th-Nov-2009 07:05 pm (UTC)
This, basically. Then again, I never missed moving out of my parents' house. The house itself had fond memories, to be sure, but home is where you make it.

Now you can put the seal of Grown-Ass Man on your life's resume and enjoy your own space. It takes some adjusting but you'll be just as happy there (if not happier) once you & Kristin have made it your own :3.
9th-Nov-2009 02:29 pm (UTC)
I always thought of my parent's house as my 'home-home', and the apartment as 'my place,' and it was sad to move out because I felt safe with my parents, but the feeling that I was finally on my own always prevailed. But then again, I moved around a lot as a kid, so I don't know what it's like to spend more than 4 years in the same bedroom. Just remember that home is where you start from, change helps us grow, and all those other home-bound cliches. :)

and hey, who's to stop you from bringing a warhammer paint kit over when you visit for holla-days and such? ;)
9th-Nov-2009 03:22 pm (UTC)
Yeah it's important to feel comfortable in your new place, to make it familiar, pleasant, and, well, homey. For like the first nine months that I lived in my apartment in Reston, I kept every room but the kitchen constantly clean. My clothes were always folded and put away, the bed was always made, there was nothing on the coffee table but the remotes...I think it was in part because first the apartment was my brother's and now it's sort of my roommate's, so I just treated it like a hotel room; somehow I felt like I would be gone in a couple days and back with my parents in our old farmhouse again, listening to the horses and the wind through the leaves.
But eventually (and sooner rather than later) you've got to start hanging your own stuff on the walls and leaving books out and leaving bags of chips or pillows or sweatshirts in places they don't belong. Because I think that's what makes a place feel like home is your own residue everywhere, as weird as that sounds. On the bright side, it ashould be totally easy because that is rockin cool place you guys have. Good luck, can't wait to come and play rockband!
9th-Nov-2009 07:06 pm (UTC)
Sorry I wasn't able to make it out to assist, but from the sound of things, it seems like everything was finished by the time I would have been able to make it out.

When I moved out of my parent's house, I had been living there for 10+ years...and the night I took the last couple of things out was pretty difficult. Izzy and I had just watched the live action Peter Pan at the theater (a story I had always been a fan of) and so the whole "growing up" thing was pretty poignant...but it is all your space and you get to share it with someone awesome and do your own things to it and make new memories there.

Wednesgiving = delicious. The location floats around, but the food and company are always great. If you guys are hosting, this is our RSVP.

Also, I know you were interested in the Cthulhu Live! LARP. Shoot Stuart (LJ user psychicmayhem) a private message if you're still interested. The game is this, upcoming, Saturday...so I know it is short notice. The least it will do is get your email address added to the invite list for future games.
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